It’s unpleasant to suddenly find out that your girlfriend is seeing someone else. It makes you feel humiliated, crushed. And sometimes, it’s not easy to recognize that you’re not the only one she’s building a relationship with. There are several signs that indicate this.
1. If you’re just dating
If you haven’t officially asked her to be your girlfriend and she hasn’t agreed to it, she might be going on dates with other people as well. In this case, don’t blame her for it. Understand that not always after the first meeting with someone, a woman wants to turn the relationship into exclusive and serious ones. Perhaps she’s not sure about her choice yet or is considering several candidates for a relationship. Until you’ve asked her to be exclusive, don’t assume that she doesn’t have the right to communicate with someone else.
2. If her friends call you by the wrong name or think they’ve met you before
If you go to a party with her friends or relatives and they accidentally slip up, calling you by someone else’s name, it could be a sign that another guy has been here before. Don’t just assume her friends are making innocent mistakes, especially if their errors are consistent. It’s likely they’ve recently met someone else, which is why this awkward situation arises. It’s worth openly asking the girl why this is happening and carefully analyzing her response. If she tries to evade the question or her actions don’t align with her words, your suspicions may be warranted.
3. She doesn’t want to introduce you to her family and friends
Unwillingness to introduce you to her family and friends, especially if you’ve been dating for a long time, may indicate that the girl is leading a double romantic life. But it’s always important to consider the context of the situation to determine if it’s suspicious. For example, if she wants to attend someone’s wedding without you, even though the invitation was addressed to both of you, then it’s a reason to think. There’s a possibility that she’ll go there with someone else. She simply finds it convenient to keep you in the shadows to avoid making a choice in your favor or to simultaneously date multiple men.
4. She has had an excessive number of partners
If a girl can’t count how many exes she’s had, then it’s likely not a coincidence but a pattern. Of course, this doesn’t always mean that something is wrong; the time frame of her relationships matters greatly. But if you get the feeling that in the last three months she’s been with ten different guys, she might have been seeing them simultaneously. And there’s a significant risk that the same thing could happen with you.
5. She avoids you and seldom shows affection
Consider whether the girl is showing you as much tenderness as you are showing her. Does she allow you to put your arm around her shoulder during a walk, hold her hand in public, or kiss her when you feel like it? Of course, some people don’t like overt displays of emotion, especially in public. However, if she avoids you and shies away from any display of affection, it could be a cause for concern. There’s a significant risk that she’s seeing someone else whom she feels more emotionally connected to and interested in.
6. You have issues in your sexual life
Of course, it’s completely normal for a girl to not be in the mood for sex at times. For example, if she’s very tired from work, feeling unwell, or going through a tough period in life. However, if everything seems fine but she constantly refuses sex, it’s worth understanding the reasons behind it. Ask her and listen attentively to her response. If she doesn’t mention any specific aspects of your intimate life that make her refuse, and can’t clearly explain the reason for her behavior, there might be someone else involved.
7. She says she’s busy but doesn’t explain with what
It seems like you can never find out what your girlfriend is busy with. She constantly gives ambiguous answers about what she’s doing and how she spends her time. Such secrecy may indicate that she’s seeing other men. Also, pay attention to how often you spend time with her yourself. If it’s only one day a week or a couple of weekends a month, perhaps you’re not her priority.
8. She takes a long time to reply to your messages
Most people try to respond quickly to messages from those they care about. If you and your girlfriend chat carefree all day but she suddenly goes silent in the evening without explaining her absence, possibly meeting another man, it’s a red flag. If this happens regularly, it’s worth considering how much she values you and is interested in your relationship. After all, in most cases, a brief message about being busy can prevent unnecessary worry and misunderstanding.
9. She plans exclusively at inconvenient times for you
It’s nine in the evening, but she suddenly suggests going on a date to another city? Or she schedules a meeting only when you have important things to do? Perhaps the girl acts like this to get a refusal from you and do what she wants while still keeping the relationship intact. Often, her need turns out to be meeting someone else. If a woman likes you, she prioritizes you and tries to choose meeting times that are convenient for both of you. Otherwise, you are just a convenient backup option for her.
10. She doesn’t delete dating app accounts
Many women, after starting a relationship, claim they simply forgot to delete their accounts on dating sites. And if after you express discomfort, the girl doesn’t give up on dating apps, perhaps she’s seeing someone else besides you.
11. She seeks a lot of attention on social media
Although active presence on social media isn’t necessarily a sign of trouble, it’s worth analyzing your girlfriend’s activity. If you see questionable comments on her page from men like “Can’t wait to see you” or “We had such a great time,” it’s worth considering whether she’s seeing someone else.
