Before entering into a serious relationship, everyone analyzes whether they can build a common future with their partner or if they are not on the same path after all.
There are factors that can be reconciled — discuss them, compromise, simplify your demands, and so on. But there are also categorical ‘no’s: traits that you’re not willing to accept in a partner, despite your strong feelings. This is absolutely normal: the sooner you come to the realization that you won’t get along and that one of you will inevitably suffer while you’re together, the more time you’ll save for yourself and your loved one. One of the common factors that people often refuse to tolerate in relationships is infidelity. People who fear betrayal value the loyalty and honesty of their partner, and will be wary of new acquaintances, trying to recognize ‘warning signs’ in their behavior in time. Unfortunately, there are no universal signs that indicate a woman will cheat on you. Even infidelity in past relationships doesn’t necessarily mean the situation will repeat itself in current ones. But you should still know what to pay attention to. Covelium has gathered a few signs that, if detected, you should at least discuss with your partner. Remember, if you find a match, it doesn’t mean that your loved one will definitely cheat on you. Everyone behaves differently in the same circumstances. Just be cautious.
She constantly shirks responsibility
One sign that you should trust a girl cautiously is her constant desire to shift responsibility. This can manifest itself in romantic relationships as well as in other areas of life. Be attentive to what she says about her exes: if she’s always blaming someone else for everything, then the situation is suspicious. Accusing past partners of her own infidelities is a major red flag. Cheaters like to blame everyone but themselves for their misdeeds.
She seeks validation of her own importance.
There are people who simply need constant praise, attention, and admiring looks from others. More often than not, individuals with low self-esteem suffer from this. If your girlfriend literally does everything to attract the interest of men around her, it should make you think. Either you’ve completely given up on her and she has to seek validation of her importance elsewhere, or she’s just one of those people who will never get enough attention. In both cases, the desire to boost confidence at the expense of other people sooner or later can lead to infidelity.
She’s always hiding something from you
If a girl constantly hides something from you, excessively controls her speech, shortens stories about how her day went, or hides her personal belongings from you, it’s at least strange. This doesn’t necessarily mean that she has cheated or is planning to do so, but either way, you should pay attention to this issue. Lack of trust and the inability to be oneself in a relationship can ultimately lead to catastrophic consequences. It’s alarming when she constantly says things like ‘Why does it matter where I went?’ or ‘I always take my phone with me,’ or asks questions about what you would do if she hypothetically cheated on you. Of course, you shouldn’t go through her messages and call history, stalk her, or try to extract information from her friends and acquaintances. The best solution is to have an honest conversation about your relationship.
She doesn’t want to set clear boundaries in the relationship
Clear boundaries in a relationship are almost a guarantee of safety for both partners. This way, you give each other an understanding of what is and isn’t acceptable behavior. If your girlfriend doesn’t want to discuss this topic, believes that you don’t need to talk about it, or constantly puts off this moment, it’s another worrisome sign. Perhaps she’s not eager to set boundaries in the relationship because she doesn’t want to turn them into something serious. Disregard for stability and attempts to avoid agreements may indicate a tendency to cheat.
She breaks commitments
It’s not as concerning if your girlfriend cheated on her ex-partner in past relationships. What’s worse is if she starts breaking your agreements and unwritten rules here and now. Once this happens, problems arise in the relationship. Even before you started dating, you should have discussed what kind of relationship you have, what you consider cheating, how you feel about flirting, what actions you won’t tolerate from each other, and so on. If you both stick to what you agreed upon, that’s great, and you have nothing to worry about. But if someone suddenly changes their mind and breaks the commitments, trust in that person will be irreversibly lost
She is used to frequently changing partners.
Again, this is a rather conditional sign. It’s important to understand what exactly is meant by ‘often,’ as well as the nature of those relationships. A woman may simply engage in casual sex when she’s not in a committed relationship, and that’s normal. However, it’s a different story if none of her numerous partners from past relationships stayed in her life for long. Rapid breakups and the constant pursuit of new relationships are at least a warning sign. If a woman has an impressive list of exes that kept growing before she met you, and your relationship didn’t last long, it’s worth being cautious. It’s quite possible that she’s constantly seeking new experiences, quickly grows tired of stability and relationships, which naturally can push her towards infidelity.
She is careless about your feelings.
If a girl often remains indifferent to your emotional needs and concerns, most likely, something is not right in your relationship. The question here is rather directed to you: why haven’t you initiated a conversation with her yet, haven’t told her that you feel uncomfortable, and instead continue to stay in a relationship where you are not respected? Lack of respect for the partner is a high-risk sign that she might cheat on you. Simply because your feelings mean little to her. She doesn’t think about how you will perceive this news, what will happen when you find out about the betrayal, and so on. You are not important to her, and neither are the relationship with you. The best thing you can do for yourself and for her is to bring up the topic of breaking up.
