Some people immediately delete their ex’s number, cut all ties, and start a new life after a breakup. Others, on the contrary, seek meetings, hinting at the resumption of relationships. Not always the desire to return everything is a sign that the girl is truly ready to try again.
They feel lonely and seek comfort in past relationships
One of the main reasons why exes want to rekindle relationships is the unwillingness to feel lonely. Many people dread loneliness so much that they find it easier to be with anyone than to be alone. Thoughts of being unneeded, something being wrong with them if they don’t have a partner, or it being too late to find someone new can be frightening. As a result, they may prefer to revive past relationships. However, the outcome of such a story is always the same: the person seeks a way to bring everything back, even if the relationship wasn’t good for either party. In truth, neither of you will be happier in such a scenario; instead, there will likely be more reasons for concern.
They feel jealousy
When a girl notices that you are coping quite well with the breakup and even gradually improving your life without her, achieving success in your career, looking great, and starting new relationships, it can deeply affect her, especially if her own life isn’t going as smoothly. This may trigger feelings of jealousy, driven by a desire to regain control over her ex-partner, possessiveness, and sometimes even stalking tendencies. In such a case, it’s best for you to keep your distance from the girl as much as possible, as her emotions and actions can have a destructive impact on everyone involved.
They strive to regain stability
Many people, after making the decision to break up, eventually strive to return to how things were. This is because life undergoes drastic changes after a breakup: moving, changing environments, restructuring daily life, the absence of the person you spent most of your time with, and so on. You have to deal with entirely new situations, solve problems that didn’t bother you before. This can be scary, exhausting, and make you miss how things were before. If a girl seeks stability and desperately doesn’t want anything to change, she may cling to past relationships. In some cases, you may even have a chance to make things right again.
They are afraid to start something new and prefer to return to the familiar
The relationship has ended, and you both have decided to move on separately. But while you will be getting your life back on track, your ex may experience a strong fear of the unknown. Especially when it comes to starting new relationships. There are quite a few reasons for concern: having to get to know someone new, dealing with problems, encountering unfamiliar situations, getting used to the flaws of another person, and so on. The girl may weigh all the pros and cons and come to the conclusion that it’s much easier to return to her comfort zone, meaning to resume the relationship with you. Of course, if you decide to try again, it doesn’t necessarily mean that everything will repeat itself. Perhaps you will find a way to change and reach compromises. But it will require both of you to be ready to work on yourselves and your relationship.
They seek validation of their importance and uniqueness
If a girl has had or continues to have issues with self-esteem, she may well try to reconcile to reassure herself of her significance. After all, if you give your relationship a second chance, it means that despite everything that has happened, you still care about her and don’t want to lose her. Former partners often come back, especially when someone’s life is going well, they stop suffering, start dating again, or even find a new partner.
They want to get back at you
Exes may blame their partner for the breakup, even if they were the ones who initiated it. In some cases, it’s easier for a person to shift all the responsibility away from themselves than to accept that you’re not right for each other. As a bonus, this allows them to maintain a good reputation in the eyes of others. However, even with this mindset, a girl may not always be able to simply move on and let go of the situation. If she is naturally vengeful, and if her life hasn’t been going well after your breakup, she may try to come back and, as she sees it, restore justice. And getting closer, building trust, and restarting a relationship with you – in her eyes – is a great opportunity to inflict pain.
They hope you’ll give in and change for the sake of the relationship
Perhaps you loved someone deeply and were willing to do a lot for them, but they still decided to end things. Sometimes, the breakup becomes a tool for manipulation: through it, the girl wants to compel you to act in a certain way. However, not immediately, but after some time, once she’s convinced that you understand the seriousness of her intentions. By coming back to you, the ex may hope for your changes. The expectations are that you’ll seize the second chance and do whatever it takes to save the relationship. Be careful: if this trick works once, it’s likely that the girl will try it again in the future.
They’re not ready to endure the pain of the breakup and strive to maintain the illusion of happiness
It happens: a person, after ending a relationship, can’t cope with the overwhelming emotions that follow. The feelings they experience become more unbearable than those that led them to the decision to break up. In order to escape the pain, the girl may choose the lesser, as she sees it, of two evils. Instead of experiencing her emotions, working on herself, and adapting to the changes in life, she decides to maintain the illusion of happiness and return to the relationship. Breakups always cause pain, but that’s not a reason to replace one suffering with another. If you ended the relationship, it means you weren’t happy together. It’s important not to forget this, especially if one of you is considering a second attempt.
They don’t want to take responsibility for their own lives
If someone constantly takes responsibility for a person, they will eventually become accustomed to this dynamic and happily continue to occupy a carefree position. In the relationship, you may have been precisely such a partner: caring, supportive, solving all the problems, and so on. It’s no wonder then that exes seek to return to you, as essentially you are capable of providing them with a comfortable life, relieving them of the need to make decisions independently and deal with their consequences. For most people, it’s much easier to entrust someone else with all the important actions than to try to figure everything out on their own. If in the relationship you were often made to feel guilty for other people’s problems, and your help was taken for granted, don’t rush to give the girl a second chance, even if you still have feelings for her.
