We can’t control how others perceive us, but we can shape our behavior to appear more attractive, especially when it comes to interacting with women. There are a few habits that reduce your chances of success with women. Get rid of them to make it easier to meet new people and find relationships that make you happy.
You Offer Multiple Dates for a Date
Let’s say things are going well with a girl you like. She shows interest in spending time with you, and you’re ready to ask her out. Of course, you want her to say “yes” to your proposal. But if you think the best approach is to offer her several options, like Saturday, Monday, or Wednesday, you’re mistaken. Why? You’ve just indicated that you have a lot of free time and that you’re willing to adjust your schedule around her. Generally, we’re attracted to people who are busy and passionate about something. Women can be put off by the idea that you’re suddenly making them your only priority, especially if you’re barely acquainted. So when inviting a girl out, choose a specific day. This shows that you value your time and that she can’t just have you at any moment. If the day you propose doesn’t work for her, you can discuss other options. But offering her a choice right away sets your idea up for failure.
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You Leave Plans Too Open-Ended
Another mistake that signals you don’t have anything interesting going on in your life is the habit of leaving plans too open-ended. You might text a girl something like, “Just let me know when you’re free to grab coffee,” or “Tell me when you can meet.” By doing this, you come across as not very assertive, and you also put the responsibility on her to reach out to you and plan the meeting. Most women don’t like doing this. They want the guy to be confident and to know exactly what he wants. So make specific plans and state them clearly. If the girl has any issues, be ready to reschedule the date.
You Cancel Plans to Meet Her
Sometimes your schedule and the girl’s free time may not align. You’re both busy adults, engaged in work, personal matters, and social activities, and this needs to be accepted. Unfortunately, you might make the mistake of saying, “Well, I had plans to go out with friends, but I’ll just cancel them to spend time with you.” Rest assured, she won’t appreciate your gesture, even if you think she will. Such behavior comes across as overly eager to a girl who may not have met you before or has only spent a little time with you. Moreover, not everyone likes being prioritized at the expense of other significant relationships and aspects of life. Additionally, the girl might feel guilty that your friends can’t spend time with you. Confident guys, who are generally more attractive, deeply value their friendships and keep their word. So it’s better to honestly tell the girl that you planned to meet with friends on the day she suggested. If she doesn’t understand and isn’t willing to at least try to reschedule, you might want to consider if it’s worth investing time in someone who finds it difficult to compromise even on such a simple matter. When a girl is interested in you, she will be ready to make plans even for the following week and won’t miss the chance to meet up.
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You Send Aimless Messages
You probably don’t enjoy receiving text messages that are just meaningless chatter. “Hey, how’s it going?” — It’s nice to hear this question from time to time, but not to encounter it every day. Especially if the conversation ends after your response. To avoid seeming unmotivated and insecure to the girl, first think about the purpose of your communication before sending a message. For example, you could ask about her plans or share something interesting with her. Boring conversations that lead nowhere are a great way to kill a girl’s interest and end up with nothing.
You Say You Have Nothing Going On
When a girl asks you about your plans for a certain day or weekend, and you say, “Nothing special” or “Not much, really,” it’s the worst response possible. By saying this, you instantly seem like a boring guy who isn’t worth spending time with. The truth is, you’re always up to something, even if you don’t think much of it. Instead of replying that you have no plans, be honest and say something like, “I was planning to watch a movie in the evening” or “I’ve got a major cleaning session at home.” Depending on the activity you mentioned, the girl might either want to join you or simply respect you as someone who makes time for important and useful things, incorporating them into your schedule.
