When you meet a girl you like, don’t miss your chance – it’s better to gather your courage and ask her for her phone number. But it’s important to do it right to increase the chances of further communication and a date. Here are a few tips on how to get a girl’s contact information.
Take the step, even if you doubt yourself
We often come up with dozens of excuses not to do something, including not asking for the number of a girl we like. You might convince yourself that she’s “out of your league” or that you didn’t make the right impression on her. But the reality is, you can’t penetrate someone else’s mind and know for sure what they’re thinking. All the negative outcomes that arise in your mind are just products of your imagination and lack of self-confidence. You’ll be surprised how many women willingly give out their phone numbers when you least expect it. Don’t let assumptions and fear become a barrier separating you from meeting new people. Remember one rule: if you want to see the girl again, take a step towards it, even if you’re scared and doubt yourself. Of course, you might hear “no” from her, and you should be prepared for that too. But at least you’ll know her opinion, rather than regretting not doing anything at all and missing your chance.
Don’t give out your phone number
Many men make a big mistake and doom the acquaintance to failure. They write their number on a napkin and give it to the girl or dictate it, commenting, “Call me sometime.” Even though this might seem cool at first glance, in reality, such a passive approach often ends with silence from the phone and a missed opportunity. The girl may be interested in you but may not dare to take the initiative and call first. Moreover, many women believe that it’s men who should take the lead in relationships and court them. So instead of giving out your number, jot down hers. This demonstrates your confidence and decisiveness – qualities that most women find attractive, so they’ll want to meet up with a guy who isn’t afraid to show them.
Do it at the most crucial moment of interaction
Timing is everything, especially when it comes to asking for a girl’s phone number. Many men wait until the end of the conversation to do this, but it’s a big mistake. Towards the end of the conversation, when it’s time to say goodbye, the energy, emotions, and excitement fade, increasing the likelihood of rejection. Therefore, it’s better to try to get the girl’s number when the conversation is in full swing and you realize that you’re getting along great. It could be a moment when you’re laughing or passionately discussing common interests. When a girl experiences positive emotions, she’s more likely to want to continue talking to the person who elicited them, so you’ll not only get her phone number but also the chance to spend a wonderful evening with her on a date.
Don’t rush to leave after getting the number
A common scenario goes like this: a guy gets the girl’s number, becomes very excited about it, doesn’t know what to say next, blurts out a “thank you,” and leaves. Unfortunately, this behavior almost always sets you up for failure. It nullifies all interaction and emotions, and it also looks like you’re not interested in the girl at all. It creates the impression that you just needed her number, not her. So, when you have those coveted digits in your hands, keep talking to the girl. This will make her feel valued as a person, not just a checkbox on your to-do list. Of course, this attention won’t leave her indifferent and will make her feel that you’re someone worth meeting and talking to.
Look her in the eyes when asking for her number
Maintaining eye contact helps radiate self-confidence and shows that you’re interested in the person you’re talking to. It signals that you have nothing to hide and that you’re accustomed to going after what you want. Another significant advantage of eye contact when asking for a girl’s number is that it helps build a sense of trust and shows that your intentions are sincere. After all, a person who avoids eye contact or looks down often appears to have something to hide. So, if you want to increase your chances of a follow-up meeting and make a good impression, look the girl in the eyes.
Don’t accept anything but the number
Often, instead of giving out their phone number, women offer a link to their social media profiles. It may seem like a great idea to add her as a friend and start a conversation, but there’s a big catch to this strategy. By agreeing to connect on social media instead of insisting on getting her number, you’re showing that you’re willing to settle for less. This could inevitably lead to you blending into the crowd of indecisive followers. Yes, some women are wary of giving their phone numbers to strangers, and that’s a fact. But if you don’t even try to get it, nothing good will come out of it. In the event that a woman refuses to give you her phone number and offers a social media link instead, gently tell her that you’d like to call her and mention that you’re willing to get her number if she’s interested in continuing the conversation. This will demonstrate your masculinity, standards, and self-respect, making you more attractive in the eyes of the girl. Typically, this strategy makes her feel that you’re worthy of attention and she’ll readily give you her number.
Tell her why you need her number
Many women fear that a guy who gets their number will turn out to be too pushy and make their life a nightmare. And that’s a justified fear because you never know who the unfamiliar person getting your contact information might turn out to be. So, to avoid giving cause for concern, it’s better to immediately mention how you’ll behave after getting those coveted digits and stick to your word. You can say that you’ll call her tomorrow evening to chat about shared interests if you’ve already discussed them, or mention that you want to think about where you could go together and will call her to suggest some options. This will show that you have the right and serious intentions, which will reassure the girl. It will also demonstrate that you’re an adult and mature man worth meeting again.
Be straightforward about wanting to meet her
If the conversation with the girl flows smoothly from the first few minutes and you’ve been chatting about everything under the sun for a while, you can simply and honestly say that you’d like to meet her again and ask what she thinks about it. When the girl responds positively to your proposal, suggest: “Let’s exchange numbers to arrange where and when we’ll meet.” In this case, getting the number will become a logical detail of the conversation rather than a problem to puzzle over. Besides, honesty and assertiveness are always attractive to women and increase the chances of success.
