Sometimes it’s better to say nothing than to blurt out something unnecessary and look foolish, especially when talking to girls.
Some questions we ask out of curiosity and good intentions can come off as irritating or offensive. They may embarrass, cause self-doubt, and discourage meaningful communication. Here are a few questions you should never ask girls.
“You look tired. Did you sleep poorly last night?”
Pointing out that a girl looks tired — even if she genuinely does—can hurt her feelings and make her think you find her unattractive. If you’re concerned and want to know what affected her appearance, you could ask, “How was your week?” Trust me, if a woman wants to complain, she will. If she doesn’t, there’s no need to pry into why she looks tired — this information might be too personal and not your business.
“I know you’re in a relationship, but can we be friends?”
If you genuinely want to be friends with a girl, there’s nothing wrong with this question. Yes, it may make you less attractive in her eyes, but that shouldn’t matter too much for a friendship. However, if you secretly hope to win her heart and want to hide your true motives behind a friendship proposal, it’s best to keep quiet. Firstly, a person who values themselves doesn’t beg anyone to be their friend. Secondly, any deception is unpleasant, hurtful, and sneaky when it comes to relationships. Either be her friend or try for something more, but avoid asking silly questions and hiding your true intentions.
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“I don’t know. Can you think of something to do?”
Most girls don’t appreciate being handed the responsibility of decision-making. As a man, you should take charge of making plans for your next date. Don’t suggest that the woman think of what she would like to do — instead, ask her about her preferences. Inquire whether she prefers Asian or Italian cuisine. Based on her answer, you can choose the restaurant you will go to together. By taking this approach, you won’t appear weak or apathetic — instead, she’ll appreciate that you’re making plans while considering her preferences.
“Do you want to wear that?”
Listen, this question is a risky move. By asking it, you’re essentially broadcasting the message, “That looks terrible; what were you thinking?” If you notice that the girl’s outfit doesn’t match the dress code of the event you’re attending, it’s best to tactfully hint at it. Even then, you may be signing your own death warrant and turning the preparation for your outing into a nightmare and a scandal. If you really dislike how your partner dresses, it might be time to pursue someone else instead of trying to change her and asking hurtful questions.
“Are you pregnant?”
If you ask this question and find out that the girl is just overweight, you’ll crush her self-esteem and put yourself on her enemies list. Sure, you might be very curious, but it’s better to keep that curiosity in check. If a woman doesn’t bring up the topic herself, you can subtly steer the conversation towards children and future family plans.
“How many guys have you dated?”
By asking this question, you risk coming across as overly jealous and insecure, which can be a major turn-off. Additionally, this topic is so personal that it might not be worth discussing. However, if she brings up the subject first, you can reciprocate and ask her the same.
“Can I borrow some money?”
This question is the quickest way to push a girl away in five seconds or less. Women prefer independent men, not those who rely on them financially. Even if you’re in a tough financial situation, ask your friends for help or consider getting a loan from the bank, but avoid borrowing from a woman you’re interested in.
“Do you think I’m attractive?”
Asking how attractive you seem to a woman makes you appear insecure. If she spends time with you and enjoys your company, it’s clear she finds you appealing. So, there’s no need to probe her further about it and ruin her impression of you.
“Why are you single?”
To make the conversation feel more like an interrogation than a pleasant chat, ask her why she’s single. This question can hurt her feelings, lower her self-esteem, or create a gloomy atmosphere. Instead, rephrase it: “Tell me about your relationship history.” While she might not want to answer, your wording won’t offend her, and you can smoothly shift the conversation in a different direction.
“You’re friends with… Why?”
When asking about a woman’s friends, especially if they’re male, tread carefully to avoid appearing overly jealous or insecure. You shouldn’t fear other men in her life; a woman is either in love with you and chooses to stay with you, or she isn’t. If you dislike her friends or feel you can’t trust her, it’s worth reflecting on why you feel that way and whether the relationship is worth the negativity. Never try to come between her and her friends or control her social interactions. Keep in mind that she might not like your friends either, and you’d feel hurt and resentful if she dictated who you could or couldn’t be friends with.
“Why do you like wearing that?”
Even if you ask, “Why do you like wearing those dresses?” with good intentions, you risk sounding judgmental. Instead, try saying, “I like that dress, and I noticed you often wear that style. Is it your favorite?”
“Why don’t you want to talk to me?”
If the conversation with a girl has abruptly stopped, avoid asking this question, as it makes you seem pitiful and clingy. Sometimes communication halts unexpectedly, which can be unpleasant, but it’s better to remain silent and focus on other people rather than pleading for the dialogue to continue. Another scenario where this question is inappropriate is when a girl is dealing with negative emotions and states that she doesn’t want to talk about them. Asking why, especially repeatedly, will only irritate her and won’t help her calm down. She may need some time to gather her thoughts and talk to you without extra emotions. Remember that sometimes other people’s feelings simply don’t concern us, and they may not want to share. Instead of pressing her on why she doesn’t want to talk, say, “If you want to share anything with me, I’m always here.” Trust me, this phrase works much better and shows that you are caring and considerate.
