In movies, we often see this plot: a guy and a girl interact as friends but hide their feelings, and then they make a grand declaration and live happily ever after.
It seems so easy and simple. But in real life, things are not as smooth as in the movies. Nothing can destroy a relationship like a wrong romantic gesture towards a girl you’re friends with. You probably don’t want to receive a puzzled look or a cold “no” in response. To timely change the dynamics of the relationship, you need to be sure that it’s not just you who has fallen for your friend but that she has feelings for you too. There are seven signs that she wants to be more than just friends — these are the signs to look out for before confessing your feelings.
She Flirts Subtly
Friends are used to joking with each other. But it’s worth paying attention to moments when humor remains humor and when it turns into subtle and light flirting. If you notice that the girl is trying to get your attention, smiling, and winking not just to emphasize a joke, and also casually touches you as if by accident, she might be hinting at her feelings.
She Shows a Lot of Interest in You
It’s quite normal for friends to ask each other lots of questions and show interest. This shows that they care and are interested in maintaining a healthy relationship. However, there’s a fine line between a girl asking you questions as a friend and when she’s interested in you as a guy. You’ll need to be perceptive to catch these small differences. For instance, the girl might start showing heightened curiosity and asking questions about your personal life and relationships. She suddenly wants to know if you called that girl whose number you got at the bar and if you sorted things out with the colleague who was persistently trying to catch your attention. And if you talk about other girls, you might notice that your friend shows some signs of jealousy. She might roll her eyes, snort, or say that you’re making the wrong choice, and such behavior often reveals that she wants to be closer to you than you think.
She Mimics You
Do you suddenly notice that the girl starts using the same slang as you? Or mimics your way of talking or your life stance? Mimicry is a way to get closer to someone you genuinely like. It helps to establish a special connection, even if you’re not fully aware that you’re adopting someone’s behavior. Pay attention to such details if you want to figure out if the girl wants to be more than just a friend. Mimicking is a clear sign that she is seriously interested in you, not just giving you superficial attention.
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She Stares at You Intently
Another sign that your friend likes you romantically is a special kind of eye contact. She might not take her eyes off you while you’re chatting about trivial things, and this is proof that she finds you attractive. We unconsciously “gaze” at those we have feelings for and often can’t control ourselves. During eye contact with someone you like, the brain starts producing dopamine and oxytocin—hormones that give a sense of safety and happiness. They create a kind of addiction, which is why it can be difficult to stop watching the person we’re in love with. So, if you notice that your friend is staring at you intently and doing it almost constantly, don’t be too surprised. It’s just because she wants to be more than just friends.
She Invests in Your Well-being
Usually, when you told your friend that you’d be out late at the bar, she wished you a good time. But suddenly, you noticed that she stopped doing that, and instead of supporting you, she started telling you not to stay out late and not to overdo it with alcohol. You might wonder why this change in communication happened, and it’s simple: your friend is trying to invest in your well-being because she has developed new feelings for you. She cares about you and wants the best for you, and she becomes more emotionally involved in your affairs than ever before.
She Shows Interest in Your Family and Other Friends
A friend who is genuinely interested in you will be curious about those who are present in your life: your family, other friends, your relatives, and so on. But a girl who doesn’t want to be just your “buddy in a skirt” will do more. She might want to remember the birthdays of your close ones, accidentally join you for a family dinner, or make Christmas gifts for your friends. Often, this kind of interest reflects a deep emotional attachment she feels for you. Moreover, this feeling can also be expressed in other behaviors, and it often seems rather intrusive. For example, the girl might like all your photos, constantly call or text you, and also never refuse to meet up even when her days are scheduled to the minute. This attention to you and those in your life often reflects her desire to be much closer to you.
You Make Her Feel Awkward
Perhaps you’re so close with your friend that you’re not embarrassed to eat in front of each other, show up looking less than your best, or send selfies while making funny faces. But if a girl is falling for you, she starts behaving differently. She feels awkward when she appears before you in an unflattering light, so she pays a lot of attention to her manners and appearance. She gets nervous and wants to make the best impression on you so that you notice her not as a buddy but as a romantic interest. She might suddenly blush when you compliment her or feel shy when you touch her. All these are clear signs that she wants to be more than just a friend to you.
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