The touch barrier is an invisible line that makes you refrain from physical interaction and stick to just talking with a girl. Overcoming it can be difficult, and it’s not always clear when you should do it. However, you can learn to overcome this barrier in a way that doesn’t push the girl away but rather improves your relationship with her and takes it to a new level. Here’s how to do it.
Don’t Rush the Interaction
Don’t rush when it comes to the touch barrier. If you just met or have known each other for a short time, don’t greet the girl with open arms or try to touch her. First, this comes across as very intrusive and might make her feel anxious. Second, you probably don’t enjoy ending up in awkward situations and getting rejected by women. So be patient and wait with the physical interaction. Give the girl a chance to get to know you better and understand how she feels about you. Of course, don’t drag it out too long if you don’t want to end up on the sidelines. You can tell if a girl is ready for touches from you by her behavior. If she tries to sit as close to you as possible, walks almost brushing her hand against yours, or gently touches you herself, it’s time to act. But if the girl keeps her distance and doesn’t show a desire to change the situation, you should refrain from touching for a while. Perhaps she’s not ready for it or is unsure if she likes you or not. Just work on building trust. The touch barrier is overcome by men who can instill trust and a sense of security.
Watch Your Behavior
You lose all chances with a girl if you scare her, so it’s important to watch what you say and how you behave. For example, she’s unlikely to find your jokes with sexual undertones or vulgar hints funny. Also, most women don’t like it when men behave like “machos,” which doesn’t align with the proper concept of masculinity.
Be Confident
Girls feel safe around confident guys. But they tend to avoid those who are constantly anxious or nervous. It’s simple: if a guy is on edge, it immediately seems like he has something to hide. Even if you’re nervous, there are ways to appear confident — we talked about them here.
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Show a Little Vulnerability
When you need to interact with a girl, you should show that you’re just as human as she is. Not a superhero, not the perfect gentleman from a book, but someone who also experiences feelings and emotions and has his own weaknesses. Share with her your most cherished and pleasant memories or the time when you were a child and eagerly awaited New Year’s gifts. Demonstrating some vulnerability helps build trust and leaves an impression on the person you’re talking to. The girl might find a part of her own experiences in what you’re saying, which will make her feel closer to you.
Listen to Her
Don’t make the mistake of constantly playing the role of the speaker to impress the girl. You need not only to talk but also to listen to her so that she can trust you. She might be the first to break the touch barrier when she notices that you’re attentive to her words and remember what she mentioned.
Be Yourself
Don’t try to be someone you’re not. It might work for the first meeting, but in the long run, it will have an unpleasant effect. First, pretending to be someone else for a long time is exhausting. Second, your true nature will eventually break through the mask you’ve put on. And this will cause the girl to distance herself, as it will undermine the trust you were trying to build. To break the touch barrier and enter into a relationship with a girl, be who you really are. Show honesty, kindness, and don’t embellish your achievements or merits. Believe me, if the girl is interested in you, she will accept you with all your flaws and quirks.
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Flirt
Don’t underestimate the power of flirting in overcoming the touch barrier. It should create a certain tension in the girl’s mind so that she wants at least minimal physical contact with you. Don’t be afraid to flirt, carefully exploring different directions and interests. Be brave enough to say nice things from the heart and without embarrassment. You can learn about the art of flirting from this article.
Start Small
Start small if you don’t want to push the girl away and doom the date to failure. You can lightly touch her hand when handing her a coffee cup or ask if you can fix a stray lock of her hair. If she allows you to do this, you can move on to non-intrusive hugs when meeting. Be sure to tell her, “Hugging you feels so good, I’d love to do it more often.” Such a phrase will make the girl feel that you appreciate her and are serious about her.
Go As Far As She Allows
Explore the touch barrier and try to push it. After the girl has “given the green light” to hold her hand and hug her, go as far as she allows. You should feel when it’s time to try. For example, if the girl looks into your eyes for a long time and moves closer, you can try to kiss her.
