There’s nothing strange about a woman wanting to get married. If you’re in a serious, healthy relationship and both of you envision a future together, including perhaps a family and children, marriage is a logical step in the development of your partnership. It establishes mutual rights and responsibilities and provides you with legal protection.
Among the benefits of having a marriage certificate for both partners are: automatic establishment of paternity upon the birth of a child, rights to jointly acquired property, special tax deductions, the ability to use maternity capital for the spouse’s mortgage repayment, access to information about each other’s health, recognition of the spouse as the primary heir, survivor benefits, and more. So, marriage signifies that you’re not just a boyfriend and girlfriend, emotionally attached but not bound by anything else, but a real family building a shared future.
However, conversations about marriage should be tense if your relationship has not yet had time to form and strengthen, and your partner is already discussing this topic with you. In this case, it can be assumed that she is fixated on marriage. And perhaps, it’s not even so important to her with whom she builds her life. The main thing is to get the coveted stamp and a new status in society.
Of course, this prevents you from getting to know each other properly, understanding whether you have a future, what you want from life and from your family. Under pressure, you may make a series of wrong decisions that will lead to negative consequences. Here are a few signs that your girlfriend may be fixated on marriage.
She tells you about it on the first date
Seriously, the most obvious sign is if on the very first date, the girl tells you that she’s only looking for serious relationships that will end in marriage. There’s nothing wrong with her not wanting a one-night stand, casual relationships, or simply wanting to outline her views and values to you. However, there are different ways to do this. For example, she could say that she’s not rushing into relationships and doesn’t want to waste time on short-term acquaintances. But talking about how she’s specifically looking for a husband should at least make you think.
The first date is a subtle introduction, an attempt to get to know each other, have a good time, and decide for yourself whether you’re interested in continuing to communicate. When a girl talks about her desire to get married, it’s as if it immediately obligates you to certain actions, placing a huge responsibility on your shoulders and forcing you to decide if you’re “the one” for her.
Her sole goal is to start a family
It’s great if a girl sees herself as a wife in the future. But if this is her only goal in life, the situation is quite sad. In this case, she will be fixated on finding a husband, and she will care little about how her relationships are developing or whether they have any prospects for starting a family at all. Besides building a personal life, a girl needs to think about her own fulfillment, hobbies, building friendships and work relationships, health, and so on. If she neglects these areas, your union is unlikely to be healthy and happy.
She envies those who get married
Another sign that your girlfriend is fixated on marriage is envy towards married relatives, friends, or acquaintances. If she periodically excitedly tells you about another marriage proposal she saw on social media, expresses a desire to be in the bride’s shoes, and praises your mutual friends who have started families, perhaps you need to discuss the question of marriage. It wouldn’t hurt to learn about your girlfriend’s preferences and views to see if you align with them or not.
She rushes events and demands quick relationship progression
If after just a few months your girlfriend is already starting to talk to you about marriage, she is rushing events significantly. The same can be said if she sets conditions for you, constantly brings up couples who got married within six months and feel happy, or pressures you not to doubt your compatibility. Marriage is a serious decision that requires careful consideration. Any manipulation or attempts to influence someone’s opinion on this matter should be avoided.
She idealizes marriage
Your girlfriend may idealize marriage, believing that after the wedding your life will drastically change for the better. For example, she may happily prepare the most delicious meals for you, even if she hates spending time in the kitchen, and you will carry her on your hands, give her flowers, and spend all your free time with her. Another common misconception she might believe is the guarantee of happiness and many years of life together after getting married. It’s important to talk to her about this and make her understand that marriage won’t solve the problems you have right now. Perhaps for a while, you will be in a state of euphoria, but it will eventually pass, and you will have to return to your usual life. If there’s something that bothers you in the relationship, it’s important to address it before making the decision to get married.
She quickly introduces you to her parents
If, within a couple of weeks or the first few months of your relationship, she is eager to introduce you to her parents in a formal setting, it’s quite a peculiar move. Firstly, you haven’t been together for long enough to be so deeply involved in her life and personal space. Meeting her parents during this period isn’t necessarily a bad thing if it happens suddenly in an informal setting, like bumping into them somewhere outside the house or getting involved in a shared activity. In such cases, she has to introduce you to each other, but this meeting doesn’t obligate you to anything. Secondly, a formal introduction to her parents often signifies a transition to a new level of the relationship. Either you’ve been together for too long, or marriage is on the horizon, or you’re so integrated into each other’s lives that you’re planning to attend social gatherings and celebrate holidays together. In any case, from this point on, your relationship with her parents begins to develop, almost making you a member of their family.
She feels anxious about her societal status
Some women experience strong anxiety about their social status in society, especially if they periodically hear from family and friends about the importance of marriage. In such an environment, a woman may resort to simplified categorization: if a woman is married, then she’s “normal,” but if she’s still without a husband, then something must be wrong with her. Such beliefs can be reinforced if all her friends and acquaintances have already received the coveted stamp. And it doesn’t matter what their relationships with their husbands are like; the main thing is that they actively demonstrate their happiness to everyone. If your girlfriend considers herself an outlier just because you haven’t exchanged rings yet, even though you haven’t been together for long, it’s a reason to have a serious conversation with her.
